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No change!

If the salary was the same, what job would you be doing right now and why?

I work with my son who has severe special needs! I really didn’t study for it! I do get the required training from our State’s ODP for his caregiving.

Having said that, I have come to understand that I love working with my son. I have found teaching him is not hard for me! I am interested in teaching new things! I can handle any kind of special situation! I am not playing any kind of martyrdom with his caregiving and teaching him.

My house is full of therapy stuff to help him improve his quality of life!

Ha ha, to answer this question I may just stay at this job 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️!

To sum up I have a passion for teaching! I don’t mind teaching special needs children!

Btw I don’t expect every parent to have that passion! Some maybe great cooks or good in sports which I am not! So don’t make a benchmark and compare yourself with me 🙂! It is okay if you get tutors for your child!

Me, helping my son hit a baseball!

It was a very hot morning and I did make my son participate in his baseball game! I really wanted to be a spectator but he didn’t budge for his dad! Sat next to the huge fan! I was the emergency handler and we did it together!

Footnote: Even though working with my son is a passion, I do feel the burnout and I have come to understand it is fine if I take a break or do things for myself!

2 responses to “No change!”

  1. vermavkv Avatar
    vermavkv

    What a deeply moving and inspiring reflection. ❤️ Your words beautifully show the difference between caregiving as an obligation and caregiving as a genuine passion.
    I especially admire your honesty in saying that you are not playing the martyr. That is such an important message.

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  2. SRIKANTH Avatar
    SRIKANTH

    What a beautiful, honest, and refreshingly grounded perspective, Ganga ji.

    You’ve perfectly captured the paradox of special needs parenting: it can be your deepest passion and your biggest exhaustion, all at once. I love that you don’t dress it up in false martyrdom—you call it what it is: hard work that you genuinely love, burnout that you acknowledge, and breaks that you take without guilt. That’s not just caregiving; that’s wisdom.

    And the baseball story? That’s pure gold. You didn’t get to be the spectator you wanted to be, but you became the emergency handler he needed—and you both made it to the finish line together. That’s a win in every real way that counts.

    Thank you for the reminder that every parent has their own superpower. Yours is teaching and showing up, even in the heat. Someone else’s might be cooking or sports—and that’s perfectly okay. No benchmarks, no comparisons, just love in action.

    You’re doing an incredible job. And the fact that you know when to step back and fill your own cup? That makes you even better at the job you love. Keep going—and keep resting. You’ve earned both. 🙏🏼👏🏼

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