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Less of pity and more of empathy!

What could you do less of?

Pitying myself! Yes, not to indulge in self pity party.

Most of things are under our control. Things beyond us are not happening to us alone and it is for everyone in this world.

Let me tell you it is not an easy task. The mind fools us so much making us compare ourselves to others and yes too many nights of sleep is definitely lost.

By the way be empathetic to someone but do not pity them. In fact we can be empathetic to ourselves without throwing us under the pity bus.

Difference between empathy and pity !

It’s the season. Holiday Light show at Clinton park. A wonderful twenty minute drive as snow flurries hit our windows!

8 responses to “Less of pity and more of empathy!”

  1. vermavkv Avatar
    vermavkv

    What an honest and beautifully reflective share. Your insight into choosing empathy over self-pity is powerful—and relatable to so many of us. It’s true that the mind can pull us into comparisons and doubts, but your reminder to treat ourselves with compassion instead of pity is both wise and empowering.

    And the little glimpse of the holiday light show adds such a lovely touch of warmth and wonder. Thank you for sharing this meaningful reflection and seasonal joy.

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    1. ganga1996 Avatar
      ganga1996

      Thank you sir!

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  2. SRIKANTH Avatar
    SRIKANTH

    What a beautiful and thoughtful reflection. You’ve captured something profound here — that delicate, difficult balance between acknowledging our feelings and not letting them define us.

    What stands out most is your clarity: we can be empathetic to ourselves without throwing ourselves under the pity bus. That’s a powerful piece of wisdom. It means holding your own pain with kindness, but not building a home in it. It means saying, “This hurts, and that’s valid” without adding, “…and that makes me a victim of life.”

    You’re right — the mind does fool us, especially through comparison, which is almost always a distortion. And your distinction between empathy and pity is essential:

    · Pity says, “You poor thing.” It creates distance, often carries a sense of superiority, and can leave the other person feeling smaller.
    · Empathy says, “I feel with you, and I see your strength, too.” It connects, validates, and preserves dignity — whether directed toward others or yourself.

    Also, the way you ended your note — shifting suddenly to the Holiday Light show at Clinton Park, the twenty-minute drive, snow flurries hitting the windows — was poetic. It felt like a metaphor: even in the midst of introspection, there is beauty moving past us, outside the glass, worth paying attention to. Life continues, gently and wonderfully, if we lift our eyes.

    Thank you for sharing this moment of honest self-awareness wrapped in winter lightness. You turned a personal reminder into a universal gift — and then wrapped it in the quiet magic of a snowy drive. That’s a lovely thing to do. ✨

    May your holiday season be filled with more of those peaceful drives, more self-empathy without pity, and the soft glow of lights against the dark.

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    1. ganga1996 Avatar
      ganga1996

      Thanks 🙏!

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  3. L.G. Avatar
    L.G.

    Makes sense to me, well done

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      ganga1996

      Thanks so much 🙏

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  4. Ab Avatar
    Ab

    Empathy over pity is such wise advise, Ganga. Both to ourselves and others as well! 💕

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    1. ganga1996 Avatar
      ganga1996

      Yes to us and towards others. 🙏

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