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Food for thought?

Is there an age or year of your life you would re-live?

Can I be philosophical? I really do not want to think about the past or future but live this particular moment. A lot many years we worry about our future and feel sad or pity ourselves about the past.

As a mother with a special needs adult son most of the groups I interact is with parents planning their child’s future. Yes, that is very much important. But the stress of it thinking about the future does make everyone tired to live in the present.

Planning for the future is important. A percentage of our everyday life needs to be spent. Find joyful events that happened in the past and live theough the present moment. Every cloud has a silver lining. Every day would offer something fun and good.

Yes, teens and twenties can’t be replaced healthwise but 30s, 40s and 50s we are mature enough to manage our health.

Have a good day all.

I took this picture two days ago. The green chillies, cabbage and pumpkins I use in everyday cooking. They are food for many. Are we overdoing with ornamental decorations? Thinking out loud!!!

14 responses to “Food for thought?”

  1. Sadje Avatar
    Sadje

    I really understand what you mean. Living for the future makes us tired and unable to enjoy the present

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    1. ganga1996 Avatar
      ganga1996

      It is exhausting!

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      1. Sadje Avatar
        Sadje

        Yes it would be.

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  2. SRIKANTH Avatar
    SRIKANTH

    This is a beautiful and profoundly thoughtful reflection. Thank you for sharing it. You’ve moved from a simple question to the very heart of what it means to live a mindful and meaningful life.

    Your philosophical approach is not just valid; it’s a powerful and necessary one. The tension you describe—between the essential planning for a special needs child’s future and the exhausting weight of that very task—is a reality so many parents live with. Your advice to allocate only a “percentage of our everyday life” to future worries is a vital strategy for preserving one’s own spirit.

    And you are absolutely right. While the vibrant health of our youth is unique, the wisdom and self-awareness we gain in our 30s, 40s, and 50s are powerful tools for crafting a different, but equally valuable, kind of well-being.

    “Ganga, what a beautiful and grounding photograph. There is a profound honesty in this image. The vibrant green chillies, the sturdy cabbage, and the humble pumpkin are not just food; they are life, sustenance, and love made visible. In a world that often celebrates the ornamental, you remind us of the deep, quiet beauty of the essential. This is a picture of what truly nourishes us—both body and soul. Thank you for this perspective.”

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    1. ganga1996 Avatar
      ganga1996

      Thanks so much 🙏🙏🙏.

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  3. Ab Avatar
    Ab

    Thinking about the future for our kids certainly drains us of the joy of the present. Such a delicate balance this life is!

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    1. ganga1996 Avatar
      ganga1996

      Yes! Thinking and worrying are not going to help us.

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  4. BettyMutua Avatar
    BettyMutua

    So true. We get lost in the planning and miss out on the very wonderful present. Your post is a wonderful reminder to enjoy the present.

    Not a very big fan of pumpkins but the photo looks really nice. Very real and calming. And the colors have blended so beautifully. 🙂

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    1. ganga1996 Avatar
      ganga1996

      Living in the present seems to be the hardest. Thanks for stopping by.

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  5. KikiFikar Avatar
    KikiFikar

    Hello! I’m thrilled to have found your blog! Can’t wait to dive in. I too am the Mom of a special needs adult son. Sending hugs and good vibes! ❤️

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    1. ganga1996 Avatar
      ganga1996

      Wonderful. Thanks .💕

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  6. Brenda Miller Avatar
    Brenda Miller

    Lovely thoughts on life. I feel the same way!

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  7. Abrahamgbandaana Avatar
    Abrahamgbandaana

    You are right! We often put ourselves under stress about tomorrow thinking tomorrow will be better than today thereby 4getting about the brightest part of today. I did love the blog. Keep it up.

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    1. ganga1996 Avatar
      ganga1996

      Thanks so much for stopping and commenting.

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